Recently, a Chinese mother shared a story: ” I visited my maternal hometown for a while, and talked often with my sister-in-law. It can be seen that, when it comes to work and family, my sister-in-law always in a good mood. But when it comes to raising children, my sister-in-law looks extremely helpless .

One time my sister-in-law said: “If it wasn’t my blood, I would beat you every day”, and as soon as she finished speaking, Xiao Ji (her son, my nephew), who was playing with My son suddenly ran in outside the door and pulled his mother out as best he could to buy toys and ice cream, otherwise she would be a bad mother .

When looking at that scene, she couldn’t help but think of a comparison between her son and her grandson.

Xiaoji is 8 years old this year. Xiaoji’s father has to work far away and only comes home occasionally. Being pampered by his mother, his grandson became more and more stubborn and selfish, demanding whatever he wanted.

As for this mother’s son, she shared that before giving birth, she and her husband agreed that no matter the circumstances, both husband and wife would have to stay close to their child and raise him together. me. Every time there is a chance, the whole family goes back to the hometown to let the boy do everything himself and explore life. That’s why the son is very good, knows how to behave, and is praised by many people.

1. Let your child interact a lot with dad

Many families leave their children to the mother to care for and educate for many different reasons, because the father is busy with work, because the father works far away… A study by Yale University (USA) proves, When interacting with dad at least 2 hours a day, children will be smarter and more successful. In addition, boys are stronger in social interactions as adults than children who are only cared for and taught by their mothers.

2. Let your child do many chores around the house

Assign your children to do chores around the house, through which they will understand the hardships of their parents, respect the results of their labor, and at the same time practice the ability to live independently. 

You can let your children start with things like dressing themselves, putting on shoes, cleaning up their own toys, not dropping rice on the floor when eating, cleaning their own room… In fact, it has been proven that when you let them The more boys do housework or participate in labor, the more responsible they become and gradually become a great man.

3. Foster boys’ sense of competition

You can let your child participate in competitive games such as soccer, basketball, or martial arts… which is also very good. Through those subjects, the boys will gradually understand a truth: If they want to win, they will need to make efforts and devote all their efforts to the current job. If you don’t use your hands, feet or mind, you won’t be able to do anything. Thereby fostering children’s ability to strive and compete.

More importantly, through the above subjects, children will understand the way to win is not only to know how to attack but also to know how to defend, understand the rules and use them fluently.

4. Let children be disappointed

If a boy wants something and his parents are ready to provide it without any questions or hindrance, then when he grows up he will not have the motivation to strive. In the hearts of these children, there is always a belief that no matter what they want, their parents will eventually give it to them.

What parents should do is to only meet the basic, normal needs in life, for their children’s learning, and let them proactively strive for other non-essential needs. Let your child know that your money is yours, not yours, and that there are certain limitations to your child’s needs.

When boys go out into society, they will always face many temptations, opportunities and challenges. When children learn how to strive to get what they want, they will become stronger and braver, sensitive and proactive in thinking of ways to solve problems.

5. Allow children to make mistakes and teach them how to proactively integrate

When children play with a group of friends, parents should teach them how to proactively integrate, proactively participate in group activities, dare to speak, dare to express.

In the process of learning how to become a leader, children both practice EQ and IQ and improve their ability to express themselves

Even if their children make mistakes, parents should not blindly criticize but give them the right instructions and guidance, so that their children can gradually discover solutions and learn to listen to other people’s opinions. .

6. Don’t overindulge 

Raising a son is a long process. If parents always only think of their son as a boy, he will never be able to grow up. Parents need to focus on educating their children in both morality and outlook on life.

A teenage boy can be a bit stupid but cannot be lazy. If you see your child being lazy and don’t help him change things, he will grow up to be a man without any great achievements, and will increase the burden on his family.

For that reason, parents should put aside their excessive pampering of their children, so that their children can grow up properly, strive for themselves, and understand the value of maturity and their own responsibility.